It might surprise many parents to learn that each year over 6000 Irish students decide to drop-out of college during their first year – that’s is 1 in 6!
What might come as an even bigger surprise is that approximately two-thirds of students admit that they chose the wrong course.
One of the main reasons that students drop out of college is that the course was not what they expected. They may discover that the course content leaves them cold, making it exceedingly difficult to motivate themselves and with little or no accountability, it doesn’t take long to become overwhelmed. Fear of failing exams starts to loom large in their minds, particularly if they have missed an assignment deadline.
This year, COVID 19 and the restrictions it has imposed, has made settling into first year of college much more challenging.
Normally making friends would help with settling into college life, but it is not so easy now.
Studying online and being confined to homes combined with the expectation to learn in unfamiliar ways, does little to motivate students.
It is unsurprising that thoughts of dropping out of college begin to take hold early in the academic year.
What to do – stay or go?
The big question for students is do they drop out or wait and see? I like this quote from Stephen Covey - ‘we are free to choose our actions…we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions’.
As with all big decisions, it pays to have as much information as possible. Whilst the decision ultimately rests with the teenager, it helps to have parents on their side, working with them to figure out what’s best. It may be that your teenager dislikes the course they are on or perhaps the time for studying is just not right at the moment. Maybe they need a break from study but would like to return to college over the next few years, or perhaps there are a lot of little problems that are rectifiable - but when taken together feel overwhelming.
1.Provide emotional support - I am putting unconditional emotional support as number one in my list because in my experience it strengthens the parent/adolescent bond, setting them up for a more adult relationship. The disappointment of discovering that the course and college life is not as expected can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed and anxious. Expect to notice a change in mood or general demeanour, missing lectures is one of the main red flags that all is not well. It might take time for your teenager to process what’s happening before discussing it openly, however, it cannot be ignored - the sooner it comes up for discussion the better.
Parents are also likely to be experiencing all sorts of emotions such as fear for their teenager’s future. Care should be taken not to catastrophise the situation as it is likely to further exacerbate the problem, making the ultimate decision about whether to stay or go more difficult.
2. Help your teenager figure out the real cause of their dissatisfaction
Often, there are so many reasons for dissatisfaction, some of which can be changed but others can’t. For example, if the real cause of the problem is not knowing how the course will lead to a certain career path, then more information is required. In this case, the course leader can help. Many people need to see the bigger picture to stay motivated.
Another cause of dissatisfaction is lack of friendships. This is acknowledged as particularly important for settling into college and once again, the course leader may be able to help. Group activities related to the course could be set up with the view to supporting students get to know one another.
Whilst some issues can be fixed it is not always that easy, particularly if nothing about the course feels right, in which case it might be time to consider one’s options.
3. Encourage your teenager to ask for help
Asking for help is an important skillset. Colleges expect that many first-year students will be struggling and therefore have support systems in place. Unfortunately, for various reasons e.g. not wanting to admit to needing help, students can be reluctant to access this support. In this instance, the course leader is the go-to person who will point students towards support that may help.
Another approach is to have a look at the tips that Spunout provides for college students to help them stay motivated in these Covid times. e.g. How to motivate yourself to do college work at home
4. Know the facts about college fees and grants
If the plan is to return to college later, it is important to note that withdrawing from college has consequences for fees and grants. Timing of official withdrawal from the course is important as cut-off dates determine the amount of monies that will need to be repaid to the college on your teenager’s return.
A decision to stay in college and switch to another course the following year is costly – between €7000 – 8000, whereas withdrawal before February 1st will cost about €3,500. Official withdrawal before October 31st will incur very little cost.
It is worthwhile understanding who pays what and when. College fees are made up of two parts – annual ‘contribution charge’ of €3000 made by the student and a ‘tuition fee’ of €4000 made to the college on behalf of the student by the Higher Education Authority (HEA).
Notification of withdrawal to the college before October 31st will mean that you will not be liable for the €4000 tuition fee, while notification of withdrawal before January 31st will mean that you will be liable to pay €2000. Because colleges can have different cut-off dates regarding the ‘contribution charge’, it is important to check this out with the college admissions department. November 14th is UCD’s cut-off date for example.
The Union of Students of Ireland (USI) provides useful information on the implications of withdrawal on SUZI Grant also
5. Use it as a learning opportunity to prepare your teenager for adult life
Considering dropping out of college can provide a wonderful learning opportunity for students, one that can have profound benefits when managing the many career challenges that will inevitably occur at times throughout their lives. Putting the dilemma in perspective, as a hiccup and an opportunity to learn more about themselves, helps them to move forward. Taking responsibility for making an informed decision and using reliable sources of information becomes an invaluable experience. All too often, teenagers rely on incorrect information generated by friends and social media.
Useful questions to trigger learning can include:
6. Explore Options
Finally, in order to make a well-informed decision, there should be some exploration of an alternative plan. What might they do instead? How might they use their time well? Are there new skills they could learn, a short course to complete, work experience to be gained? Colleges of Further Education may still have places available and are known to provide a worthwhile bridge for students to successfully managing the higher education experience.
If you would like tailored help and advice, please contact Anne today at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Anne Mangan provides one-to-one career coaching and small-group workshops aimed at empowering students to make informed decisions.
Member since: 20th June 2019
Anne is a career coach and educator with almost 30-years’ experience in higher education - as tutor, programme director, educational developer, educational consultant, coach and mentor. Aware of the challenges...